Comments on: Sometimes I just don’t understand… http://his-phoenix.com/2008/09/11/sometimes-i-just-dont-understand/ Ashes? We don't need no stinkin' ashes! Mon, 16 Jan 2012 22:15:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 By: Lois Lane http://his-phoenix.com/2008/09/11/sometimes-i-just-dont-understand/comment-page-1/#comment-36086 Lois Lane Sun, 14 Sep 2008 18:27:22 +0000 http://his-phoenix.com/2008/09/11/sometimes-i-just-dont-understand/#comment-36086 That's so infuriating. I'm so glad your son has you. I say keep fighting the fight. Send that letter (once you have completed it) and also pass it on to the entire school board. They are the ones who hire and fire teachers/counselors and they should be informed what goes on in that building. That’s so infuriating. I’m so glad your son has you. I say keep fighting the fight. Send that letter (once you have completed it) and also pass it on to the entire school board. They are the ones who hire and fire teachers/counselors and they should be informed what goes on in that building.

]]> By: Leanne http://his-phoenix.com/2008/09/11/sometimes-i-just-dont-understand/comment-page-1/#comment-36085 Leanne Sat, 13 Sep 2008 13:45:18 +0000 http://his-phoenix.com/2008/09/11/sometimes-i-just-dont-understand/#comment-36085 Over time, the public school system has been forced to take a back seat to being a part of raising children because of parents who fought them on it. Now, they are hands off and are there ONLY to educate your child, not to teach them manners or discipline or how to study. It's not their job to care more for your child than deemed appropriate by those who came before you and wanted them to leave their children alone because the school system is NOT the parent. This has left kids high and dry, because parents don't even have time to be parents. Either you need to make extra time each day to focus only on him, to teach him what the school system won't, to train him in the areas he's weak, or this will most definitely continue - because they won't give your son special treatment over any other student (unless you ask them to put him in special ed classes, since students who are labeled special ed get more assistance than the "norm"). I've learned that the only way to compensate for the public school system is to really be what they aren't to your child because unfortunately, they don't and CAN'T care anymore. That's what has happened to the system over time, in large part, because of parents intervening in the "old ways" that used to actually work. I am sorry for your frustration, and hope things get better for you both. Over time, the public school system has been forced to take a back seat to being a part of raising children because of parents who fought them on it. Now, they are hands off and are there ONLY to educate your child, not to teach them manners or discipline or how to study. It’s not their job to care more for your child than deemed appropriate by those who came before you and wanted them to leave their children alone because the school system is NOT the parent.

This has left kids high and dry, because parents don’t even have time to be parents. Either you need to make extra time each day to focus only on him, to teach him what the school system won’t, to train him in the areas he’s weak, or this will most definitely continue – because they won’t give your son special treatment over any other student (unless you ask them to put him in special ed classes, since students who are labeled special ed get more assistance than the “norm”).

I’ve learned that the only way to compensate for the public school system is to really be what they aren’t to your child because unfortunately, they don’t and CAN’T care anymore. That’s what has happened to the system over time, in large part, because of parents intervening in the “old ways” that used to actually work.

I am sorry for your frustration, and hope things get better for you both.

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