I can be brutally honest, and I hurt people with it, sometimes.
Why is it that people get upset when I tell them, in complete honesty, how I feel? I have had trouble dealing with that a lot lately. You see, I had a discussion with a dear friend and I feel that she took it as an attack instead of a blunt statement of my view of things. I had the same issue with my son tonight, and he burst into tears.
I don’t want to hurt people, however (comma), I cannot, in good conscience, tell them lies and remain true to myself. Sometimes honesty hurts, but it is always necessary.
So, if I have hurt you with my blunt, brutal honesty, I am sorry, that was not the intent. I want you to know how I see any situation and I hope that you can take it as simply my perspective. I will not, however, stop being honest to spare feelings. That is simply me enabling someone else to lie to themselves, and I won’t do that.
That is the way I took your statement above…..
Giving gentle suggestions or ways of change without being abrupt.
Seems like you are one to speak your mind without thinking it through….IMHO.
He can be both ways but the one thing that I love most about him is the fact that he IS honest about what he believes or thinks. It is nice to carry on a conversation with someone who does not coddle me or enable me to be someone that is selfish and making things all about me, which is what I tend to do alot. There is never a need to apologize for being honest. I try to never be offended by it… that does not mean that I haven’t in the past… but I know when he is right about certain things.
Carlo… you keep the smile on whether I want to smile or not… so never fear – If I am hurt by something you have said… I promise to say so. K? Muah!
Everyone can have a different view or perspective on the same issue. I say take all the views, decide what you like about each, add your own and go with it. While we might not always like what people have to say, it is their view and sometimes that view gives us a little kick in the butt to make our lives a bit better.