Question to ponder
Jul 26th, 2007 by phoenix69
How does one prove to another how special they really are?
You would think that words would be enough, but to be honest you can’t tell them because they will never believe you. I find that the only way to prove this theory is not by words but by actions. It is a theory that I plan on “proving” to someone who is very special to me.
This person is distrustful of the words of others, and cannot, for some reason, “believe” that they could be special to anyone. I find that my only course of action is to prove it to this person so there is no doubt, ever again.
My problem with this is finding the way to the heart of this dis-belief. What makes this person think that they could never be special. Is it something that has been said or done to this person that they started to believe this about themselves? Is it fear that they could not stand up to the standards that they “think” we have put on them?
There is no standard that is expected. There is no pedestal. There is only the actions that this person has already done and said that has made them special, wanted and needed.
This person thinks that they have a dark heart and mind and nothing could be further from the truth. Everyone has dark thoughts at certain times of their lives. Everyone has said or done something in their lives that made them not so perfect. None of us are perfect. None of us can cast the first stones.
For some reason, humans have a tendency to cast our own first stones at ourselves. I have done so many times in the past. I have considered myself unworthy of others affections in the past and still do to some degree. Ask my friends though if that is truth and I am sure they would come back with a resounding NO. I have been told I have a pure and trustful heart.
Sometimes I disagree with this and other times I can see it. I know I am too trustful. I know I find it hard to distrust anyone and that is why I am shocked when I am betrayed by others.
All I know is that this person WILL know - with no doubt what-so-ever, that in my mind and those minds of many others that they ARE worthy of our affections and and that they are more than just special in our eyes. I have a mission and I will not stop until I am “believed”.
“I aim to misbehave.”
6 Responses to “Question to ponder”
A receptive heart can be convinced; if it isn’t, you have a difficult mission ahead.
Some people have low self-esteem from childhoods with people who belittled them. I’m sorry your special friend is feeling unworthy and proud that you are of a mind to show him or her differently. Good luck and sending you good thoughts to accomplish your mission.
“Is it something that has been said or done to this person that they started to believe this about themselves?”
Yes. Over and over and over, most likely.
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We are each our own enemy when it comes to how we perceive ourself—and our perception dictates our believe has to how others see us. It take action from those who care, those who love —to change another. Many times it takes years before the actions has the impact one hopes it will have—it takes patience-so don’t give up give it your best.
BTW–I want to tell you just how special you are to many and I am one of the many—Thank you for being you.
People are usually their own worst enemies, I know that I am. Love can change the world.
convincing another of their worth can be a very difficult task, but I am trying it nevertheless.